A reader recently reached out with a concern about a colleague, Linda, who has been described by several staff members as abrasive. While the reader acknowledges instances where Linda’s communication style could be perceived as rude, they also note that they work well together and have observed improvements in Linda’s demeanor.
Despite these positive observations, the reader has received complaints about Linda’s tone and received a particularly aggressive email from her. In preparation for a discussion with Linda, the reader reached out to her former supervisors, who confirmed Linda’s reputation but mentioned she had never received feedback on this issue in her 15+ years at the company.
The reader is conflicted about addressing the issue as the complaints about Linda came from individuals who were also rude to her. One of these individuals holds a significant role as the HR director. The reader is unsure about the best approach, especially considering the longstanding history between all parties involved.
The reader aims to convey a message that emphasizes respectful communication among colleagues, regardless of provocation. It is crucial to address Linda’s behavior while also acknowledging any mistreatment she may have faced. The reader also plans to discuss the reputation Linda has developed with her and how they can work together to improve it.
Additionally, the reader highlights the importance of maintaining fairness in addressing behavior issues and ensuring Linda is not held to different standards than others. They plan to address any problematic dynamics they observe and advocate for Linda when necessary.
As a new member in the company, the reader believes they may have a unique opportunity to address the issue with Linda and set expectations for respectful communication. They intend to approach the conversation by emphasizing a standard of professional conduct for everyone, including how others engage with Linda.
Ultimately, the reader aims to create a workplace environment where respectful communication is prioritized and where all employees are held accountable for their actions. By addressing Linda’s behavior and addressing any underlying issues, the reader hopes to promote a positive and inclusive work culture for all staff members.
