A concerned reader has shared a work dilemma regarding a teammate, Paul, who is currently going through a divorce. This has been happening for the past two years, and it’s starting to take a toll on the reader as they seem to be the one managing most of the team’s work.
Initially, when Paul informed the reader about his divorce earlier this year, the reader offered their support and assistance. However, months later, the reader finds themselves still bearing the burden of managing the workload alone. While Paul has expressed gratitude for the help, it’s becoming overwhelming for the reader.
The situation is complicated by the fact that not everyone at work is aware of Paul’s personal struggles, leading to awkward situations when his absence is questioned. Additionally, the reader’s own work is getting affected, especially with upcoming travel plans.
To address this issue, it’s important for the reader to have an open conversation with Paul. They should communicate that while they were happy to help initially, the current arrangement is not sustainable. Setting boundaries and clearly defining responsibilities will be crucial in resolving the imbalance in workload.
If talking to Paul does not yield results, involving the manager should be the next step. It’s important for the reader to prioritize their own well-being and not feel guilty about setting limits. Helping out in times of need is commendable, but it should not mean taking on someone else’s workload indefinitely.
By addressing the situation proactively and assertively, the reader can find a more balanced and manageable work dynamic while still being supportive of Paul during this challenging time.
